Tarek Pukat: Fiqh

How Long Does A Female Patient and Hold To Unrelated to her husband?

Tarekpukat - Nowadays, we often hear in the print and electronic media cases in the household, even some of them have ended in the green table religious court, it can not be separated from their respective roles of husband and wife in a foster home, in one side of his wife sometimes forget their obligations and on the other hand he was always demanding their rights to the husband. Likewise, a husband, not infrequently he forgot his duty as a head of family and continue to assert their rights to his wife. Yet everything had been arranged by religion, the husband is obliged to provide maintenance to his wife, and in return, the wife must be obedient and submissive to her husband.

In this case, living in question is the need clothing, food and more, the husband is obliged to provide clothing, food and shelter to his wife, and the husband is not obliged to meet the needs of b1ologis wife, but the husband is required to maintain his wife from committing immoral, including to prevent it from doing adultery, thus indirectly, the affairs of the bed is a thing that must be considered by a husband.

But the extent where patience woman in this case, is permissible for the husband to not leave the inner living for one or two months? is it okay for husbands to leave it for a year? in this case, religion imposes limits the extent of permissible for the husband to not provide for his wife, the book of Al-Mahalli described is not justifiable for a husband to not provide a living mind of his wife in a period of more than four months, because four months is the limit of the patience of a woman in the case of these matters, it is based on a story companions of the Prophet, which is the story of Sayyidina Umar, Sayyidina Umar on a night walk in the town square medina, then he listened to a woman who recite the following:

Indeed, the night really was a long and some have passed, lonely lover who can not take a joke ria I have woken me.
For the sake of Allah ! If it were not for fearing punish the banks of these beds would really shake violently.
But the shame and fear of the Lord prevented me.
And I was worried it would interfere with my husband to achieve a high degree.

Then Sayyidina Umar approached him and said: "where did your husband go?" He replied: "he has long gone to war in Allah. Sayyidina Umar then go home and ask his daughter hafsah: "How long a woman can refrain from dealing with her husband?" Hafsah answered: "Four months, more than that he is his patience would run out or stay a little bit".

After this incident, Sayyidina Umar create policies that war time should not be more than four months, it is that women are not suffering from the loneliness of their beloved husbands touch.

Four months is the last limit or length restriction if the measure is the month, while weekly is four days. So that one of the lessons why only males are allowed polygamy to four is due to restrictions sense of patience of desire in women is four days so that if someone has four wives, then he will be able to meet the needs of a living mind his four wives each week without making them wait more than four day and were disappointed.

Reference: Mahalli juz 4 page 11

A Child filial obligations to both parents

Tarekpukat - In the present life, the obligation for a parent of a child has been largely forgotten. It was sad to see in every newspaper and various media always abuse and torture for parents going on around us. One cause further lack of respect of a child against the person who gave birth to her is because of the education he received was not balanced by the evil influence that every day in the life.

Therefore, the lesson of the obligations of a child against the parents need to be encouraged again, so as not to be taboo in the future. The Rights of Children Against Parents

Whether any man, surely the most meritorious against him are his parents. Services parents will never be able to pay nothing, or nothing can equal it for someone. These several parts:

1. Have childbirth

How great we are, or how eloquently we are today, it all would not exist if they did not bore us. They have been the cause of our birth into this world. Without them, we are only mortal without form.

Maybe we deny it by saying, "I never told them gave birth to me, to what I have to serve them." Yes, if you'd like of course they will say, "If we know you to be a bitch like this, who's willing to bring you. Already since our tangible piece of meat you throw into the ditch". But the average parent would not say like this. Their affection is too big to be defeated cheap emotion. If their children are evil, they can do just shut up and cry. Quite often they even blame themselves incompetent in educating.

When we are virtuous people like human beings, we will not forget the greatest merit of this. Instead we will make it as the main reason to serve and fulfill their rights. Especially mothers, sick and tired tired in childbirth and contains incalculable. For men do not even dare to imagine. How could we forget their toil this?

If we look at the mother, how during the nine months was pregnant with difficulty, even when giving birth, a mother must wrestle with death, as if the right foot in the hereafter and the left foot in the world, it was all done for the sake of a beloved child who later was expected to be able to be their greatest source of happiness.

2. Provide a living
Dad, who can deny the services to a child. How many have spent their wealth to us, if we count from birth to adulthood may be enough to buy a car. Immeasurably how much sweat that have been issued, incalculable how much pain he's going through to raise us. A difficult thing we know before we actually have children of their own.

Have you ever seen a frail old man still works? Yes, wherever we

can find it, because almost all parents can not be careless while their children starve, or not enough clothes. He forgot age getting late, the rules when he was aged 60 years and over, the task is no longer holding a hoe, or fouled him in the fields. He was supposed to sit at home, and reproduce remembrance practice. Her son had been the whip for him to go on and continue working.

Therefore, it is appropriate that a child is loved them and obey their wishes, except in the unlawful and religiously forbidden. Already we hear many stories of how the trouble disobeying parents, how the history of a boy who disobeys his parents. It's just such stories have begun away from the ears of children now so that what was once the most feared gradually faded swallowed an incessant bustle.

Remember, that no matter how successful we are, if the parents are not pleased with, so God is not pleased with her. Allah's approval on the pleasure of the parents. If God is not pleased with us, for this is our life? For what the treasure wallowing surrounds us?

Allah. speak;

وقضى ربك ألا تعبدوا إلا إياه وبالوالدين إحسانا إما يبلغن عندك الكبر أحدهما أو كلاهما فلا تقل لهما أف ولا تنهرهما وقل لهما قولا كريما

Meaning: And thy Lord ordered you not worship except Him, and be ye kind to mother your father with the best - well, if one among the two or both have aged in the maintenance of you, then do not once - once you say to the two words "ah "and do not yell at them and say to those noble words. [Q.S al-Isra 23].

Prophet Muhammad said: "Heaven under your mother's feet" In another hadith says: "Allah's approval is in the pleasure of the parents, and the wrath of God is in the wrath of the parents".

Among other things to be aware of a child is not applicable manners in front of them. No matter how we are annoyed with them, we should not take it. Because if their hearts are hurt, we can be damned.

Hopefully the rights and duties of children towards their parents can benefit and become an afterthought for us how far we are happy they are.